There is a reason we, as women, gravitate towards our kinky knickers. Our intimates reflect our style and personality whether it’s playful innocence or sinful seduction. In a lot of ways, our lingerie reflects us. What I love the most about linger was how it made me feel as a woman and how it made me look at my body. While I may have the tendency to always concentrate on the flaws when I looked into the mirror, whenever I was just in my stylish undergarments I felt beautiful. It wasn’t only because of the intricate details, elegant embellished, or the provocative design – it was how it made me appreciate the feminine form. It was a part of fashion that you did for you even if no one else will see how amazing your lingerie looks today; it makes you feel good to walk outside with confidence. It’s fashion that is specifically made for us. I like to think of it as a secret club for women that men just didn’t understand. It’s made just for us girls.
For my personal journey, lingerie was apart not only my exploration of sexuality but body image because of how it made me view my body. It made me realize the beauty in the female curves and taught me to appreciate even when it wasn’t what I thought it was ideal. The splendid colors, rich lace, and delicate details bring our your beauty.
Recently Victoria’s Secret launched the ‘Perfect Body’ campaign showcasing airbrush models that exuded what it meant to have the “perfect body”. These women didn’t look like the women I would see on a constant basis both in my personal life and on the streets. While the backlash may have caused the brand to change it’s name, it also shows that the finger can be pointed both ways. While the tall, skinny girl shouldn’t overshadow the curvy girl, saying things like “only real women have curves” and such doesn’t help your case. Shaming one woman to make yourself feel better doesn’t make it right – it just makes you look petty.
Lingerie isn’t meant to make us question our bodies but more so embrace the curves we were given. We all come in different sizes but that doesn’t take away from our beauty. Slender women are sexy and so are curvy women. The confidence I felt while wearing my intimates made me accept my body for what it was and see the beauty in it. It was one of my main motivations in becoming a lingerie and sex blogger for My Little Vixen. I wanted other women to feel the same way I did. I wanted other women to realize their curves and shape were beautiful at any size. It was that platform that allowed me to build a platform to talk on the intimates I love and talk about my sexual curiosity. When I became more accepting of myself, I became more confident sexually. For a long time, I wasn’t comfortable sexually because I didn’t want anyone to see me because I was ashamed of what I saw in the mirror. I was closed off to side of myself because I wasn’t happy with myself. Just like how ready-to-wear makes you walk out your door with confidence, lingerie made me accept my curves, no matter how big or small they were. My intimates gave me confidence as a woman and when I gained the confidence I became more confident in myself sexually.
While lingerie may not be one-sided is what it means for women, the one thing many can agree is that our relationship with our knickers is special because of how it makes us feel. Lingerie is not porn. Lingerie is not only rotic. Lingerie is glamorous. Lingerie is feminine but most of all; lingerie is whatever you want it to. What matters is how they make you feel beautiful from the inside out.
The moral of this story: Embrace your body. You’re perfect just the way you are.
xoxo The Vixen